Saturday, May 18, 2013

Day 20 – The Survivor Guilt Circle

Day Twenty. It has been almost three solid weeks that we have been besieged by zombies. The first step to survival was to lock this place down. Once we were secure in here and safety was established, we were able to come to grips with the reality of what we were dealing with. This means that people in surrounding towns (Adair, Ketchum, Pryor, Vinita, Jay, etc.) are dealing with this too. And if this is a global event… it means that all our loved ones could be gone.
So we took some time to talk about the people we had lost. When you have 22 people sharing stories, it takes some time to get around to everyone but – let’s face facts – time is something we have plenty of.
Everyone has lost someone close to them. Luke spoke of his wife. Becca spoke of her fiancé. Fred talked of his sons, particularly Joe who is serving in the Navy. Hunter talked about his dad. But there were two stand outs in the group (in my humble opinion).
Dillon & his girlfriend
(Her status is unknown)
I was particularly impressed with Dillon Hernden. He passed around this picture of him with his girlfriend that was down in Tahlequah at NSU when the apocalypse hit us. He shared a picture with us that he keeps on his iPhone. (I asked him permission to let me post it on here.) He talked about how this wonderful girl had completely turned his life around, gave him purpose, and took him off a path that he wasn’t particularly proud that he was walking. Now, Dillon is only 18 and the first thing that a person my age does is dismiss such young love. Were the odds against them that they would get married and sail off into the happy ever after with sixteen grandkids in tow? Probably. But to hear him speak of Talya with such open honesty, I was so refreshing. We have no idea what happened to Tahlequah. She could still be alive but after 20 days…  
The other person that choked me up when he spoke was Tommy Holt. In working with Tommy for the past year, I often accused him of being a serial killer because he showed a complete lack of worry. Nothing ever seemed to rattle him. Problems in the department, people calling in sick… It was all just water off a duck’s back with him. I finally found something that made him crack. And it was his kids. Tommy’s kids are all real young. Two are just barely is school and one hasn’t started yet. Even now, I think Tommy regrets not charging to his car and not driving to Claremore.
Now, Tommy is by no means a coward. I think that if anyone of us were in trouble, he would charge forward selflessly to come to our defense. And if armed with a baseball bat, a shovel, or a wrecking bar, I am betting big money that no single zom could stand against him. But when Zero Hour broke, those things were crawling all over the parking lot. Getting out of the store and to your car could have been complete suicide. Even now, we have no clue what condition Claremore is in. But from Langley, it is easily a forty-five minute drive.
Tommy tried calling his wife, his mom, his brother, his sister, even his brother-in-law that he could not stand trying to get some word on his family. He called until his phone ran out of battery and then we scrambled through the lockers in the break room until he found a charger and then kept calling. He tries calling every day for an hour when he wakes up trying to get in touch with anyone.
He considers himself a coward. I don’t see it that way. We don’t know if the zoms even reached Claremore. There is a chance that if his wife and the kids made it out of the city and out to their farm that her family has outside Skiatook. If that is the case (and we don’t know that it isn’t), then Tommy has an obligation to his family to stay alive. For all we know, they could be slowly making their way here to us. I can see dying to save a friend or a family member in immediate danger. But I am not going to risk my life on a trip to Oklahoma City on the off-hand chance that my sister might be alive. And quite frankly, while I am sure my sister would fling the door open wide if I showed up (uninfected) at her house, after the hug and the kiss… there would be a punch to the stomach or a kick to my nertz for being so stupid as to risk my life to come to get her.
I think that is what unnerves everyone so much… It is just the flat out not knowing. If you knew that your wife or husband or mom and dad were positively dead, you could mourn, move on, and stop thinking about them. I know that sounds insensitive, maybe even a little cruel but it is true. I hope Tommy’s kids are okay. I think he is mad at me because I have Alex here with me. He would never admit it and if he felt that way, he would be the first to admit that such thoughts are wrong.
But I will tell you that after the circle, I gave Alex a little tighter hug tonight before he went to bed and I slipped away to write this article. One day at a time, guys. One day at a time…